According to the dictionary, a stronghold is defined as a well-fortified place or fortress. It is also defined as a place of survival or refuge. It can also be defined as a hide-out or a prison. Think about that for a moment, ladies.
For most of us, our strongholds tend to be those things that are holding us back. Things that are constant sources of our unhealthy habits or thoughts that have embedded themselves deeply into our hearts. They are the slings and arrows of Satan.
These slings and arrows manifest themselves in prideful thoughts or self-deprecating feelings. You know what I’m talking about. We’ve all said I’m not worthy. I’m not pretty enough, skinny enough, you seek negative attention just for the sake of getting attention. Maybe you have anger issues or a bad temper. These are symptomatic of strongholds that are holding you in prison.
Many of you over compensate with drink or food or sinful activity. Often times, we are judgmental or unforgiving and hostile to those who may have wronged us, and by doing so, we keep ourselves locked in the past. Maybe you have an overly critical attitude toward those around you … your spouse, your kids, your co-workers and even your friends. These are all mechanisms we use to hide from the struggles and pain we are actually feeling.
The truth is, these bad behaviors and evil thoughts are all indications of strongholds that have happened in your past. Maybe you have trust issues because of someone whom you trusted and they hurt you. Maybe your parents were divorced so you have relationship issues. Maybe you experienced some trauma or were physically assaulted. These are all strongholds that you need to face, deal with and annihilate.
To be sure, it is not easy to break free from these strongholds. Ask yourself if these are recurring patterns? What lies have you believed? What messages are replaying over and over in your mind? Are you listening to them and do you believe them? Are you guilty of passing these strongholds down to your children?
Often times, strongholds are not even bad things. They can be fixations such as religion, food or over protectiveness of those around you. But if you are overly obsessed, then these are also toxic. Over-indulgence in anything, whether good or bad, is destructive.
For most of us, we need to seek help from others in order to break the chains of our strongholds. Not an easy thing to do … to ask for help. Remember, the enemy lies and he wants you to mistrust God’s promises. The enemy seeks to confuse you and beat you up psychologically. He wants to discourage you. He wants to take away the goodness and truth that God has offered to you. The enemy wants you to turn over all control to him.
But deep down, we know we should remain dutiful to our Lord. Corinthians 10:4-5 says, “The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.”
To learn more about breaking the strongholds in your life, tune into Warrior Divas, Real Talk for Real Women, Episode 14 available at www.divasimpact.com/podcast.