“Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they will be filled.” Matthew 5:6
As someone who has been victimized before, I get to talk with many other women who have been victimized. Every time, I do, if they know anything about the Bible they know this verse. They are focused on the person(s) who victimized them to be held accountable, and they are looking for righteous justice. I totally get their feelings, but this verse is not talking to those who have done wrong against us, it is talking about seeking out righteousness in our own heart.
In our organization we talk about the V in DIVAS Impact standing for being VICTORIOUS. Being victorious does not mean we are immune from bad things happening to us, but it does mean that we have ability to hold true to our virtues in spite of them. One thing I have learned on my journey to healing from my attack was that I am responsible for how I choose to live my life after the attack. For me, I carried several things from the attack with me. Fear, anger, bitterness, insecurity, and a self-righteousness. Once I walked thru my healing from my attack, I began to follow my moral compass back to find myself and who I was created to be. As a matter of fact, although I had the dreams of starting DIVAS Impact years earlier, I did not have a clear enough vision for it until I walked through my own journey of healing.
What was the difference? First it started with a series of forgiveness, of people who I felt had wronged me. Believe it or not, if you have been victimized you not only blame the person who did the act, you start blaming others around the act. As you move forward years down the road, you find it easy to place blame on others for your life not going the way it should. The first step was forgiving myself, and then my attacker. These were both huge for me, have you ever heard the phrase unforgiveness is like drinking poison and hoping the other person dies? Here is a sad reality, there were so many times I was so miserable in my own skin, although I never was suicidal, I would not have been upset to merely slip away.
Why am I telling you all this? Because I feel there is someone out there that needs to hear this. You may have had something terrible happen to you, but you can choose to live a life free from it re-victimizing you every day. You have to seek a righteousness that is more than vindication it is restorative and will re-ignite the passion for life you had before the trauma.
Daily DIVAS Challenge:
- Choose to forgive those who have done you wrong
- Choose to forgive yourself
- Reach out to us if you would like to start the journey to be set free from your life’s trauma. (you can reach us at firstname.lastname@example.org)