As women, wives, mothers, we have all had moments when we have felt uneasy, scared and unsafe. The world as we know it today can be terrifying and unpredictable. Our hearts are often heavy with regret and fear. We do not feel safe and secure within our own environments.

For each of us, there are times when we ache for inner peace. We have faced strife, domestic turmoil, sickness and death. We worry about our loved ones, our children, our grandchildren, our spouses and ourselves. And we watch the news every day and let’s just be honest, the news is not going to give us inner peace.

Is it any wonder that so many of us are riddled with fear, stress, sleeplessness, and anxiety? J. B. Figgis said, “The essence of peace is God; the secret of peace is trust.” And while we may know God is there watching over us, we tend to not find that trust that will direct us to lead less stressful and more peaceful lives. We get caught up in all the situations of life that derail our peace and security.

Perhaps you have suddenly lost a parent. It doesn’t matter how old you are, your world has been shaken, and your life will never be the same. Life throws curves at us that can grip our souls and devour our inner peace. Think about all those women you know who have lost their life-long spouses. They don’t know how to deal with their grief or the days ahead of them without that one person who they have depended on for a lifetime.

Consider for a moment the women you know who have had their lives turned upside down by an illness or cancer. These women have to find a way to dig deep in to their souls and find a way to just survive. Some of them will choose to say, “Why me?” Others, will have a split second of anger and shock. Then they will choose peace over fear, walk through their grief and move on toward a positive attitude. These are the survivors. These are the women who have achieved peace and are thankful for life.

For many of us, there may have been a sudden reality check when the person you have been married to for a lifetime becomes a person you no longer recognize. Be it from illness, depression, Alzheimer’s or other factors, it can rock your world. It can steal your peace and security. It can affect our own emotional health and give you a total loss of purpose. It can become a threat to your everyday peace. It will invade your heart and soul. It certainly can create fear within your heart and mind. It can cripple your daily existence.

This is the time when you have to ask yourself if you want to stay in this dark place of insecurity. Do you want to stay in this place and suffer in silence? Are you okay with the fact that your life is empty and totally deprived of anything worthwhile? Are you content with becoming a doormat? Someone to be used and abused?

John 14:27 says, “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you … Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.” So through faith, we can choose to stop the yelling. Stop the cycle by setting boundaries that are going to be acceptable to ourselves. Find ways to bring that inner peace back into your life. Remember that you cannot be responsible for someone else’s happiness. You are only responsible to yourself and your personal well-being.

So much of what we do in life is based upon what we think is the right thing. Maybe because we have been brought up a certain way. Maybe because we think we have to be in charge to take care of someone who doesn’t take care of themselves. Maybe because we are just plain scared.

But ask yourself, “Are you letting that angry, ungrateful person affect your life? Are they causing you to put your life on hold and invade your life?” If so, your stability and emotional well-being is at stake. You have to learn how to put yourself first, empower yourself, grow and evolve back to the person you used to be.

In short, arm yourself with positivity. Take one step at a time toward a future that lifts you up, gives you strength and focuses on a more peaceful, secure life. Let peace flow through your soul and ease your fears. Learn how to effectively handle the burdens and hostilities that are affecting your daily life to become your best self, to love yourself and to find true happiness. You are, after all, in charge of your own future and the next road you travel down.

To find out more about what threatens your peace, tune into Warrior Divas Episode 8 available at www.divasimpact.com/podcast.