Participate, Don’t Anticipate!

“If you must look back, do so forgivingly. If you must look forward, do so prayerfully. However, the wisest thing you can do is to be present in the present. Gratefully.”  ~ Maya Angelou

As human beings, we all tend to forget about the present moment, because we are too busy trying to control everything. And why do we do this? Some of us do it because we have stored away fears from things that happened in the past. Others constantly try to anticipate what the future holds, and we believe that if we control and plan everything, then what lies ahead will be better that what we left behind.

In truth, this kind of thinking is not all our fault. We have been conditioned from early childhood to anticipate – We look forward to our birthdays. We anticipate Santa Claus coming for months as kids. We can’t wait to get our driver’s licenses as teens. We want to hurry up and graduate from high school. We can’t wait to be all grown up. We are so engaged with thinking about what comes next that we don’t participate in the “NOW.”

As wives and mothers, we are driven to look ahead. We don’t want our children to make the same mistakes we made. We want our husbands to succeed. We dream about the future our kids will have. We ignore the blessings of the present. We dwell on the bad things that can or did happen. We have expectations of how we perceive things ought to be and when they’re not, we are disappointed.

If we are always unavailable to the present moment, then we will most definitely miss out on all of the opportunities offered to us today. Of course, living in the moment is easier said than done. Our human frailties cause us to want to plan! We want to control the whole kit and caboodle that we call life! We think we can anticipate the good, the bad and the ugly. We are by nature, organizers!

However, in reality, God is the one true controller of our lives. No amount of worry, planning, organizing, wishing or hoping will change what God has planned for us. Our walk toward Heaven should be the only focus of anticipation that we have. His miracle for us in the here and now is to live in the moment. To enjoy our children and grandchildren. To love to the fullest. To eat that cake! To dance in the rain! To laugh out loud!

A million missed moments can never be reclaimed. Give yourself permission to be grateful for the harmony and splendor that surrounds you today and every day. These are God’s gifts. He brings us hope in the dark, and He grants us a new opportunity to become a happier version of ourselves each morning.

“Learn to enjoy every minute of your life. Be happy now. Don’t wait for something outside of yourself to make you happy in the future. Think how really precious is the time you have to spend, whether it’s at work or with your family. Every minute should be enjoyed and savored.” ~ Earl Nightingale

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